Tuesday, March 01, 2011
Cuts Both Ways
I know this feeling is fleeting (thankfully). I know that I might feel this way now, tonight, even tomorrow, but eventually this unrest will be replaced by profound gratitude; with awe that my job right now is to be with these miraculous creatures every day and to witness the wonder of their growing up.
Parenting is a constant ride on that pendulum swinging between joy and madness, gratitude and despair...
I just have to remember to hold on.
Winner!
Sorry I can't send one to all of you, maybe when I'm a published author someday (What? A girl can dream!) I'll be able to give away more copies of favorite books!
Monday, February 28, 2011
The Big Itch
What started as a fun, even whimsical weekend quickly took a nosedive. Around mid-afternoon on Saturday Michael started complaining of a sore ear and began running a mild fever. No problem, I thought, a little ibuprofen will carry us through and I'll make an appointment first thing Monday morning. Haha.
Matt stayed home so Michael could sleep in Sunday morning while I took Harper to church. It is important to note that I did not see Michael awake before we left...
After church we chatted with some of our friends who remarked on the absence of our male contingent. No problem I said haughtily, just a little ear infection brewing, we'll go to the doctor tomorrow, no need to run to urgent care for that. Man, has parenthood taught me nothing?
Once we arrived home I knew something was wrong the minute Michael spoke to me. It sounded like he had a couple of marshmallows stuck in his throat. I cringe just thinking about what it looked like in there - so swollen his tonsils were pretty much touching - I have no idea how he was swallowing.
Of to urgent care we went, armed with a huge bag of books and a dose of ibuprofen for the road. Both the nurse and nurse practitioner who looked at Michael's throat had audible shocked reactions -so hard to believe that happen over night - and we left after about two hours with a script for some antibiotics.
That should be the end of the story, but no, not so much.
Michael took the first dose of meds with no problem. After dinner I tried to give him another dose - which he tried to spit out - I figured he just didn't want to swallow because his throat was so sore... but five minutes later he was scratching at his neck and pulling at the collar of his sweatshirt. I stripped his shirt off to see that his entire trunk was splotchy and red, as well as his neck and shoulders. Yikes. Because of our history with allergies I have a really, really hard time not going into an internal panic when I see signs of an allergic reaction. Unfortunately we couldn't even give him Benadryl because he'd already taken his daily does of Claritin.
I called the after-hours line for our pediatrician and talked with a grumpy nurse who told me I had to call urgent care. I called urgent care to get more unhelpful advice - don't give him any more of that med (duh) and call 911 if he starts to have trouble breathing (again, duh). They did say I could use Harper's EpiPen on him if his throat started to swell shut, which was the only reassuring bit of information to get. Although if I thought Michael was having an anaphylactic allergic reaction I wouldn't wait for permission to use our EpiPens.
We watched him closely for a couple of hours before finally putting him to bed. As soon as we dropped Harper off at school this morning it was off to the pediatrician for a closer look and a new prescription. Poor guy looks like he has a sunburn and may stay that way for up to a week.
I am telling you we better be through with all these germs and soon because I am feeling beat right down but these never ending sicknesses. Spring cannot come fast enough.
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Friday, February 25, 2011
Little Informant
This just, happens, sometimes. Even the sun peeping out for a bit this afternoon has not improved my mood. Even the prospect of the book giveaway is not cheering me this afternoon. In addition to feeling generally steamed, I am ready to strangle Harper right now.
Do you know what my six-year-old has been doing? Hoarding raisins and fruit snacks in her bedroom. I actually knew about this because she shared her secret with my mother and sister when they were here visiting last week. (Yes children, we really do tell each other everything, sorry for the betrayal.) I didn't bust her right away and actually found it sort of hilarious that she was keeping fruit snacks under wraps. Apparently we are so stingy with the dessert around here that she felt the need to keep some backups at the ready.Although she told my mom and sister that she was saving them for a surprise for me - suspicious since she's surely never seen me actually eat a fruit snack. Anyway I figured a time would come when I'd be able to call her on it, and I was right.
Today Michael told me that he had fruit snacks under his bed. What? So he showed me. I asked where they came from and he told me he got them from Harper. That's right eldest child of mine, your little brother can speak now, think twice about what you show/tell him.
So Michael took me into Harper's room and pulled a pencil case out from under her bed. It was stuffed with fruit snacks. There were also two empty fruit snacks boxes under her bed. And you know what, while I don't want to encourage the children to hide food in their rooms, that isn't the part that bothered me. The lying is what really gets to me.
Lie 1: I don't know where he got them.
Lie 2: He got them from the pantry.
Lie 3: I put the boxes in the recycling last week.
Lie 4: I don't have any more.
(Further coaxing reveals more fruit snacks and raisins in her purse.)
Lie 5: I didn't eat any of them.
Ugh. Even when she knows she's cornered she still lies!
From my experience teaching little kids I know that this is perfectly normal 6-year-old behavior. They panic when they are cornered with their own wrong-doing and tell bold-faced-lies rather than give in to the evidence laid out before them. I know this, but wow, I really hate being lied to.
I think I have said before that I believe it is actually good for kids to think they are getting away with something from time to time. It strengthens their sense of self. So there are a handful of infractions that I will knowingly overlook, but lying is not one of them.
Now comes the tricky part - Matt and I will have to decide on a consequence for the food-stashing-and-lying-about-it. What would you do?
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Tuesday, February 22, 2011
February Lift (There's a Giveaway!)
I wonder if I am not the only one with the need for a little pick-me-up these days...
If you are feeling a little anxious waiting for the arrival of SPRING! try this activity to cure the winter blues:
1. Realize a talented author is living in a neighborhood mere minutes from your house.
2. Get your book club to agree to read her latest novel. (Not difficult to do).
3. Use the fact that you once worked in different divisions of the same school to embolden yourself to contact her and ask if she would consider meeting with your book club.
4. Introduce your fun and interesting book club to aforementioned talented author. Enjoy good food and wine and discussing of books. Laugh a lot. Happily realize that said author is indeed as delightful as you would hope the writer of some of your favorite books would be.
I guarantee that following steps one through four will cure your cabin fever, or distract you from it at the very least. However, if you are not fortunate enough to be able to recreate the above scenario (What? You're not ALL loosely connected to talented neighborhood authors?) I can offer you the next best thing - one of her books!
Our book club was so fortunate to enjoy the company of Katrina Kittle as we discussed her most recent novel, The Blessings of the Animals. Of course the best way to keep a favorite author writing books is to support her by purchasing her already published books. I'm very happy to do my part by giving her books as gifts and that includes giving one of them to one of YOU! As a bonus, Katrina has agreed to sign the giveaway book with a personal message, and she may also share some swag from her publisher.
To enter the giveaway just comment on this post by Monday, February 28th. Any comment will do, but it would be highly efficient to check out the books on Katrina's website and tell me which of her books you'd like to receive if you are the lucky winner. I also welcome stories of both wonderful or horrific book club experiences. (Is there such a thing as a horrific book club experience?) One entry per person, please, and feel free to spread the word. If there are more than thirty comments I will give away TWO books. (The winner(s) will be chosen by random number generator.)
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Old Friends
I cannot adequately express how happy this makes me. I'm sorry she couldn't get home to her own house and children tonight, but I'm thrilled that I was able to offer her a place to stay when she became stranded in Ohio.
Colleen is an assistant volleyball coach for a Big-Ten university and had been in town recruiting this weekend. I was already fortunate enough to catch up with her last night - when she came to visit before heading to her hotel. We stayed up way too late talking and looking at old pictures and now we get to do it again tonight.
I have a handful of friends like Colleen - people who I know well enough that it genuinely never matters how much time has passed since we've last seen each other. Before tonight the last time I'd seen Colleen was two years ago when we were on vacation in Wisconsin. And before that I hadn't seen her since her wedding five or six years earlier. We don't even talk frequently, but she does read here (Hi Colleen!) and we exchange the occasional email.
So even though she'd never met my children before yesterday and we hadn't spoken in a couple of years, it was as natural as ever to sit down and eat with her last night and to invite her to stay tonight. AND I didn't even feel the need to play hostess. Matt and I just finished watching the newest episode of The Amazing Race and Colleen, who doesn't watch it, sat with us and read her book. I cannot think of many people, other than my immediate family, who could just slide in and hang out with us like that. It probably seems strange that we were watching TV and she was reading when we so rarely get to spend time together, but like I said, there was a lot of catching up yesterday. It's just comfortable. Perhaps that's how it always is with someone you've known since you were six.
I don't take it for granted, having a friend I am so entirely at ease with. Even in this age of hyper-connectedness, a 27 year friendship is a remarkable relationship. It is awesome, and I am thankful.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Happy Valentine's Day
I have nothing against Valentine's Day but both of my children were over the moon about their school celebrations and I really don't see any reason to raise the bar when they are happy with the status quo. Although, I should note that Michael told me sadly that they didn't have circle time today, but they will have it tomorrow. He missed circle time. I would also like to note that I made four batches of Rice Krispies treats last night so the morning and afternoon kindergarten classes would have a safe snack.
The first year Harper had a school Valentine party we bought a bunch of craft supplies and had her make the Valentine cards for her friends. (Actually I ended up in the hospital on bed rest that Valentine's Day, so Matt or Nana helped her make her cards.) That was fine, but here's the thing: Valentines are not expensive. It is great to make them if you're looking for a fun family activity. But buying Valentines is not going to break the bank. In fact, for the initial investment we made into Valentine making supplies, I'm sure I could have purchased enough pre-made Valentines to see Harper through elementary school. I totally phoned it in this year and both kids went to school with store-bought cards. I think it cost us about four dollars.
Harper did have to make a Valentine box to take to school. I wrapped a cardboard box for her, cut a hole in the top, and let her go to town with stickers, crayons, etc. I'm fairly certain there isn't much of an artistic streak running through this branch of the family tree. When you let six-year-olds decorate their own Valentine boxes, the results are uninspiring, but at least they are proud. I think there's a good parenting lesson in there somewhere. If you let the kids do their own work (whether it is decorating a box or making their beds) it never looks as good as it would with lots of help from you, but it's not your job. And Harper actually said yesterday, "I'm so proud! This is my first Valentine's box!"
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Snow What Fun
(Michael would sit into the snow and then immediately yell, "Pick me up! Pick me up! Me stuck!) |
This winter we've had more than our fair of snow, as, I realize, has most of the rest of the country. This winter's pattern has been to snow and then immediately get so cold that I can't stand to take the children out into the snow.
Finally today, after what feels like eons of waiting, conditions in the front yard were actually favorable for snowman building.
Apparently conditions were also favorable for random leaf finding; Harper added that leaf to her collection which is part of some grand plan she has to build her own ant farm.
It has been a very long time since I tried to build a snowman*. And the yard had only about one inch of packable snow on top of the ice layer... I helped get the process started and then Matt tagged-in when I had to go inside to take a phone call and begin dinner.
Matt and the kids ended up building the snowman in a manner that reminded me of making sandcastles. Attempts to roll three distinct snowballs were abandoned in favor of a snow pile. Amateurs.
In the end the snowman turned out just fine, thank you very much. I'm exceedingly grateful I won't have to go through another year listening to Harper bemoan the fact that she has not been able to use that snowman kit!
*I may be having creative memory here, but it seems to me that rolling a snowball was a lot easier when I was a kid. Once we got it started we'd roll it once or twice across the yard and have a nicely sized snowman body part to work with. Northern folks - am I imagining this? Were the snowmen of my childhood a lot smaller than my memory suggests? Was it difficult to get a substantial snowball? Because today it felt like I spent an awful lot of time with my hind end in the air rolling a snowball around the yard with not much to show for it - and I don't think the neighbors appreciated the view!
Wednesday, February 09, 2011
Moving Forward
Monday, February 07, 2011
Last One I Promise
Sunday, February 06, 2011
Saturday, February 05, 2011
We Interrupt Your Weekend
Wednesday, February 02, 2011
Words About Weather
So, uh, I thought it was March, that is supposed to come in like a lion.
(Note to March: That is not a challenge.)
We aren't exactly buried in snow here, but our weather has been strange over the last two days.
No school on Tuesday, because overnight the world became coated in ice. Matt stepped one step out the front door to retrieve the paper Tuesday morning and ended up on his hip on the stoop. The ice made the snow in our front yard look glazed. Every time Rebound went out to use the bathroom he did his best Bambi impression.
Oh, and just to keep things interesting, Harper woke up vomiting on Tuesday - at least she was already off the hook for school.
More sleet/freezing rain stuff fell throughout the day on Tuesday. Then it warmed up enough that it started to rain Tuesday evening. The rain made puddles on top of the ice layer on top of the snow.
As it warmed and rained it sounded like the trees were hurling things at our roof. I don't know what exactly we were hearing, but it was loud enough to send my heart racing and had the children covering their ears. This sound went on ALL NIGHT. It was like a wild animal was racing around on the roof (and not a rodent, something larger, a tiger?) jumping and sliding and clawing - winter trying desperately to leap upon us in our beds.
Around 1:30 in the morning the power went out. I know this because it went out, Michael immediately started screaming, and then it flashed back on long enough for the time - 1:28 - to register on my clock before we were plunged into a more lasting darkness.
We found a flashlights, lit a (jar) candle, and I played the, "Please FTLOG go back to sleep Michael" game for the next three hours. Fun times!
Fortunately, because it was relatively warm outside (in the thirties?), the temperature in the house didn't drop too much over night - it was around 60 when we woke up in the morning.
The temperature was supposed to drop rapidly during the day, so we ended up packing some necessities and driving the ten minutes to Matt's parents who still had power. The worst part of that trip was getting the kids up Mike and Ann's (slightly) sloped and (very) icy driveway. Michael did pretty well, I held him under the arms and he sort of shuffled his way to the garage. Harper was a bit more challenging, legs flailing every which way as I tried to keep her from pulling both of us down onto the ice.
Then we ate some breakfast and tore the living room apart. My in-laws have the patience of saints.
We returned home in the afternoon - after checking with neighbors and then calling our answering machine to make sure power had been restored.
Then it got very windy and snowed a couple of inches. The end.
How have your last 48 hours been?
Monday, January 31, 2011
Need a Writing Boost? It's Not Too Late
The rough goal I try to hold myself to is to complete one notebook a month. Since I slowed down a bit in late fall, I'm trying to do some extra writing to ring in 2011.
I love this picture of one full notebook beside one fresh, untouched, notebook:
I've been a little stuck in a rut in my notebooks lately so I jumped at this offer from my good friend Jen Violi (info yanked directly from her business Facebook page, hope that's okay Jen!):
28 for $28: DAILY WRITE-AMIN
Any writers or word-lovers out there need a little boost? I’m offering a 28 for $28 February special—consider it a daily write-amin (you know I just can’t resist the new dorky word combos).
For just $1 a day, each day in the month of February, I’ll send you an email with a different writing prompt/suggested activity as well as a little inspiration and encouragement for your writing day. Whether you need some new stamina for an old project, inspiration to start from scratch, or just want to commit to writing as a daily practice for your own personal reflection or transformation, this writing supplement is for you!
Register by Jan 31st (or contact me up 'til Feb. 4th to start a few days late) at www.jenvioli.com!
I'm so proud of Jen and all she has accomplished (her young adult novel will be published this year). I really admire the way she has taken her passions and turned them into a business. The best part is that she is opening up and sharing her wonderful self with anyone who wants to take advantage of her wisdom. I'm so pleased to be able to support her in living her dream, even in a small way.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Supervision Fail
He decided he wanted to watch a Thomas DVD, and apparently had some trouble finding one, as ALL of the kids' "shows" ended up on the floor, many of them out of their cases. Oops.
(Yes, we have a lot of children's videos. What can I say. We didn't have cable when Harper was little. And I was in grad school so I will not pretend that she didn't watch TV, she did. I hope she appreciated the variety.)
It's always nice of the children to give us little reminders when we've got the leash a little long, no?
Monday, January 24, 2011
Assortment
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I ordered a netbook on Friday night and now I am obsessively checking the web to see whether it has shipped already. I want it to be here so I can read/comment on your blogs and respond to three year old emails while I watch mostly mindless television. Evening activities unite!
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Speaking of mindless television... Is anyone watching the new season of American Idol? I wasn't sure whether I would or not, but I started too, and I am surprised at how much I enjoy Jennifer Lopez. Also, I am a total sucker for the little human interest bits they do - especially when the contestants can really sing. Apparently in my book hardship + any hint of talent = entertainment.
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Both of the kids have strep, although Harper's been on meds long enough that she did go to school today. Michael isn't as far along, big sigh. I hope we all sleep a little better tonight.
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Last week I went to pick up Harper from school and my car wouldn't start up again when we tried to leave. I called Ann (mother-in-law) to pick up Harper, got a jump from AAA, got a new battery from our favorite local mechanic, and still managed to retrieve Michael from preschool on time. Despite the dead battery I think the universe was on my side that day.
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We have concerns about some sort of prowler in our neighborhood. We got a call last Thursday night that a man had parked his car down the street, approached several houses including ours, and then went back to his car and drove away. Strange. There are footprints in the snow from our neighbor's front porch to our driveway - a path none of us ever walk - and there were similar footprints in the snow a couple of weeks ago.
I'm not exactly afraid someone is going to break into our house. That would be stupid because we don't have much of value, we have a ferocious dog (shhhh, he sounds ferocious), and I have a large metal flashlight for shining light into intruders' eyeballs and hitting them in the face.
I am afraid of looking out one of our many windows into the dark and seeing a face right there looking in at me - that is the stuff of my nightmares, seriously.
Aaaaand now I'll need a sedative to sleep tonight.
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Harper would like you to know that she got her hair cut again and it is exciting because it matches Kit's hair!
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Harper would also like you to know that she lost her other front tooth (while I was having the car battery changed). It came out while eating a piece of pizza! That makes the number of teeth she's lost four and then number that have needed to be pulled out by adults zero. That is happy math.
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Michael would like you to be cool and pretend there is something interesting about his teeth.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Marry a Good One
Ten years ago today I met Matt at a church fish fry. No kidding.
And he, all on his own, remembered that this was the ten-year-anniversary of our meeting. And planned a lunch out, just the two of us.
Matt appeared, as promised, at 11:15 with a dozen roses for me. Going to lunch, on a weekday, without the kids, felt like playing hooky. We enjoyed our little break from reality, some time to celebrate us and the family that we've created.
I'm telling you - date whoever you want. But marry the nice one, the smart one, the sweet one - like I did - and life will be good.
Friday, January 14, 2011
Rah-Rah
The children have definitely caught the playoff spirit, even down here in Ohio, but I'm not sure how Michael confused toilet paper and pompoms.
Both children are going to be very disappointed tomorrow when the game doesn't even start until after bedtime, especially after being forced to sport their Packer apparel all day.
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On another football related note - Harper was yelling at the television during a game a couple of Sundays ago. She turned to me and confessed, "I don't really know what's happening, I'm just practicing for when I'm a grown up."
Monday, January 10, 2011
Thank You American Girl
Although, to be fair, it was also occasionally difficult explaining it to junior high students. (The same students who were looking for The Diary of a Young Girl, by Anne Frank, in the fiction section!)
Fridays are library days for Harper's kindergarten class and last Friday she came home with the book Welcome to Felicity's World, part of the American Girl Doll machine. (I notice that these books must be out of print, which will be distressing to my girl who received Kit for Christmas - surely we'll be on the lookout for Welcome to Kit's World thanks to the back cover adverts on the Felicity book...)
While I have not scrutinized the entire book the layout is friendly/accessible enough for a work meant to introduce children to Colonial America, but a kindergartner is definitely not the target audience for that book. In the first six pages I found myself trying to explain Loyalists vs. Patriots, the colonies, the Boston Tea Party, taxes, tar and feathering, the First Congressional Congress, freedom of religion, and why half of colonial children died before age six and how a doll in a coffin helped their siblings understand those deaths. Uh...
Fortunately I have a PTO meeting tomorrow night and Matt will have to tag in and explain the next several pages!
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
Welcome 2011
How are you?
Yesterday my before-blogging friend Erin called to see if we were still, you know, alive over here. As we were talking the children were screaming/playing in the background. I ignored the noise until it reached that certain pitch that means there might be an actual problem. I had to hang up on poor Erin and found that Michael had tried to take a chunk out of Harper's arm. At first I thought there was blood, but no, just a little bruise for a reminder...
That's kind of how things have been - nothing tragic in the last ten days, mostly happily busy with the occasional bump in the road. We are still unpacking (we were in WI for almost a week) and working on incorporating all of our wonderful Christmas gifts into the household. We have not taken down a single Christmas decoration (this weekend, this weekend...) yet.
Anyway - we're still alive and kicking (and biting) in Ohio.
Here is a question for the new year - do any of you have any experience with netbooks?
I feel like most of my day isn't conducive to being tied to the desktop I normally use, which, among other things, means my back is always to the children. I would love to have a laptop or netbook for email and reading blogs and maybe Facebook. That is literally all I want it for - I'm not interested in loading music or videos or photos on it. I am intrigued by the long battery life, portability, and lower cost of a netbook. I'm NOT looking to replace this desktop... Any thoughts are more than welcome!