Saturday, November 29, 2008

Conversations with a 4 Year Old

We went out to lunch today with Matt's mom and sister. Harper had spent the night with Matt's parents, having a pajama party with her Aunt Meaghan. We were discussing ham because Harper had eaten some with her breakfast.

Matt said to her, "You know what? I like ham and you like ham, but Mommy doesn't like ham."

To which Harper replied, "I don't know what's up with her!"

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I was eating dinner with Harper tonight. Somehow we got to talking about mistakes and how it's okay to do something wrong before you know it's wrong, but then you try not to do it anymore. And we were also talking about bad words, like "stupid" which is a bad word for our purposes, and how sometimes we might read a book or watch a move that uses one of those words. I told Harper it's okay (especially when "stupid" is the kind of bad word I'm talking about) to watch/read those things, as long as we know enough not to repeat the words when we speak.

She looked at me very seriously, put a hand on my shoulder, and said, "But sometimes grownups forget, right Mom? And they use a bad word? Because one time we were driving in the car home from Nana and Dziatku's house and you said, 'stupid,' remember? And that wasn't a nice thing to say. But that's okay Mom, you can always try again not to say it. Just don't say that word again, okay?"

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am pretty sure that Harper gave me a similar speech about the word stupid last time we were in Ohio. I guess Auntie Shannon needs to try harder too.

Erin said...

No one teaches humility like your own child, you know?

CARRIE said...

I get loads of lectures from N regarding how mean I talk to other drivers when I am in the car. She tells me, "That wasn't very nice," more times than I care to admit.

PAM said...

I love Harper's take on the world right now - very funny.
Yesterday at the zoo I peed for the 10th time (pregnancy + cold weather) and it was a really little one so I didn't wash my hands. As we were leaving the restroom my son announced loudly "mom - you didn't wash your hands!" CRINGE.