Mope

Around here, the twos are looking a little like the early teens lately. Today I had plans to take Harper to an open gym at the rec center. The play area is only open for a two hour window. About forty minutes before we needed to leave this morning I tried to get Harper ready to go. Well she was too busy playing, then she didn't want her diaper changed, then I put her in her crib because she was acting tired and cranky. I told her to let me know when she was ready to go. I finally thought to myself, "My day will be no less complete if we don't ride tricycles for half an hour, so why am I fighting this?"

Of course Harper eventually decided she wanted to go and it was too late by then. So she spent the rest of the day turning to me occasionally, putting on her best pout, and saying, "I want to go to de gym." After a while I just ignored the pout. If I encourage this her bottom lip will become so big she won't be able to hold her head up straight.

At one point in the dialog (before I'd decided to let it go) I was telling Harper again that we had to get ready to leave. She put her little hand over my mouth and said, "IknowIknowIknowIknowIknowIknowIknow." Message received.

The rapid-fire "I know" is a new one. Usually when you are saying something Harper doesn't want to hear, she'll tell you, "Shhhh. Be qui-et." An example:

Me: Harper it is time to get ready for be-

Harper: Shhhhh. Be qui-et Mommy!

I have to admit, it's a little difficult not to laugh at that one.

Harper is also adding to the list of stall tactics she employs at bedtime. One is to grab your arm after she's in bed and say, pitifully, "I neeeeed you!" The other is to say, "Way a minute. I haf a good idea for you. I hav a gwate idea!" Then you just stand there like a fool waiting to hear it. About ninety percent of the time there is no actual idea, but you've wasted a few more seconds.
Did I mention Harper didn't get to go to the gym?

Mexico

I am at an almost complete loss for what to say about our trip to Riviera Maya, Mexico, because it was so spectacular words can't do it justice. It was so good, I only read one-and-a-half books. There were just other things to do, like sleep by the pool, eat and drink whenever we wanted, and explore the huge resort.

Here are some highlights:

The first night we had a festive dinner with the 800 people in the group we were with. There was a Mexican band singing the oddest arrangement of songs I have ever heard. There were also two dancing girls in very skimpy black dresses, doing what looked like a low impact aerobic routine. Huh? We all ate and drank and then played carnival games. Despite being tired and having enjoyed several beverages I broke two balloons with darts.


The second day I began with a pedicure at the spa while Matt was in a short meeting, the only real business obligation of the trip. Then we spent all day at the pool, where the deck chairs sat directly in the water, and only got a little sunburned. (Seriously, the sun is powerful there, we used nearly an entire bottle of sun block in less than five days.)



The third day we went on an excursion to see the Mayan ruins at Tulum and visit an eco park called Xel-Ha. The ruins were beautiful, even if our tour guide went on and on and on telling us about how ancient Mayans distributed the buildings in a way that let them tell time and set a calendar, leaving us only about twenty-five minutes to actually explore them. There were iguanas everywhere! Sort of like the squirrels in our yard, but slower.


The third night there was a big awards dinner for our group which was fancier than our wedding. It was a lot of fun and probably the best food we had the entire trip. I did not get any pictures inside the ballroom, so you'll just have to believe me when I say it was fabulous.

The fourth day we swam with a dolphin!!! That is practically the equivalent of every childhood dream I ever had coming true. We got to hold and kiss the dolphin, take a "belly ride" holding onto her fins, ride on a boogie board while she pushed the bottom of our feet, and swim around with her a bit. I know that lots of people do this on vacation now, but I still get a little thrill thinking about how I played in the water with a 400 pound dolphin. She wasn't scary at all; I was, in fact, way more freaked out by all the littler fish in the water.


The last night we joined the other people from Matt's region for our own little dinner. We ate at the Mexican restaurant where nothing on the menu was mild enough for my palate. But guess what. . . All-inclusive means you can just go back and order room service if you aren't crazy about your dinner. And we did. To celebrate our last night in Mexico, I took a bubble bath in our tub which was almost big enough to swim in. Now that's a vacation.


Getting home was something of an ordeal. There were late flights and missed connections. Instead of flying into Dayton at 9 on Sunday night, we flew into Indianapolis at midnight, rented a car, and drove back. We crawled into bed around three in the morning on Monday.

My mom managed to keep Harper unaware that we were home until about nine that morning. Eventually my mom told her to be quiet because we were sleeping. Harper pointed to our closed bedroom door and said, "In dere?" Then she said, "I go say hi." I woke up to see her smiling face next to the bed. She climbed up, crawled all over hugging and kissing both of us, looking as happy as if it were Christmas morning. Then she said, "I yike you, Mommy." Sure beats the reception we got after our trip last year!

(For those who are really interested, you can view many vacation photos here.)

Time, It Flies

About a year ago:




Yesterday:




Yes, we're back from Mexico. And yes, it was a fabulous as you'd imagine!

Going Away to Relax is a Lot of Work

Tomorrow I will be here.

Actually I'll be there later today. I will be leaving for the airport in a little less than four hours. So why am I awake writing to you?

I have been relatively frantic the last few days, trying to get everything ready for our departure. Do you know how difficult it is to leave directions to care for a very particular two-year-old? It is a lot of work! I wanted to cover all of the bases and have spent the last couple of days putting a binder together with everything anyone might ever want to know about maintaining Harper. And really, I barely scratched the surface. What will she eat? How do we handle a food allergy emergency? What is her bedtime routine? Where are the markers? Why does she wear sunglasses in the house in the middle of the day? These are just a few of the questions that a person might have when caring for our daughter. Not to mention that our television setup is more complicated than a mission to Mars and there are things to know about the dog as well.

It's like writing substitute teaching plans, but worse. At one point I was thinking it might just be easier to smuggle her into Mexico with us. Then I remembered that I don't know the Spanish word for peanut. Actually I don't know many Spanish words, and I am being a typical American in hoping that won't matter too much. Otherwise I'll be stuck asking what time it is and counting to ten for the next five days.

While we will do some sightseeing and probably attempt to shop one afternoon, we are mostly planning on relaxing this trip. Food and drinks of all types are included at our resort, so we could basically go from bed to beach and back, grabbing food on the way, for four entire days. Actually we have a few events to attend, so that's not entirely true, but believe me there will be much lying around before Sunday.

I am bringing five books with me. Yes, five. Um, I don't really believe I'll read a book a day, but I could. And there's that long plane ride, and waiting in the airport, and the lying on the beach. And wouldn't it be horrible if I were relaxing in Mexico for a few days and I ran out of something to read? I'm like a chain smoker that way, I already have the next book (or, you know, seven) lined up before I finish the one I'm reading. And of course I don't know what I'll feel like reading once I finish my current book, so there's that to consider too.

Then again, I'm awfully tired, so sleeping on the plane sounds good. There might be a movie on the plane, and I love movies. So maybe I won't make it through all five books. . . but the idea alone is simply delicious. Instead of reading for a few minutes in my bed before falling asleep at night, I can read for a few minutes on the beach and then fall asleep in the afternoon. In the sun. Did I mention we're going to Mexico?


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I know that Harper will be very well cared for by our parents for the next few days. But man, when I was putting her to bed tonight, I really started feeling how much I'll miss her, and worry about her, while we're gone. It won't stop me from having a great time, and I could certainly use the vacation, but darn it if I don't love that child more than anything else on earth. Makes it just a little hard to leave.

From the House of Mouse

Being a college man of leisure (just kidding, he works very hard) Uncle Jamie was able to hightail it down to Orlando for spring break with some friends. He called me, while leaning up against Cinderella's castle, to ask if Harper liked any specific Disney characters.

I love Disney World and was very jealous that he was there while I was not. Sigh.

Anyway, Harper has a few "Classic Pooh" accents in her bedroom, so she gets excited about Winnie-the-Pooh stuff. She was also recently obsessed with the big mouse himself; after about 389 viewings of a Mickey Christmas DVD some friends gave us. (Incidentally, we used to have a wonderful babysitter named Vicki and Harper called the mouse Vicki Mouse for a very long time. He he.)

Well Uncle Jamie came through.


First, there was a collection of short-but-sweet Pooh stories. The way time is flying, Harper will probably be reading them to me before long.


Then there was an actual Mickey Mouse!!!


Harper pulled him out of the bag and danced around the living room with him. She said, "I luf him, he's my fafrit!" Then she went on to explain to us that he has yellow shoes and red shorts and black ears and a black nose. . . She was so funny, alternately describing and dancing with Mickey.

Mickey even has a special marking on the bottom of one foot so you know he is the real deal. Impostors need not apply.

Down on the Farm

Harper was eating a snack of Quaker Oat Squares and playing with her Fisher Price farm this afternoon. I entered the living room to find she had placed her animals all around the barn and "fed" each one. . .

What you can't see in the pictures is the fact that Harper prompted each animal as I took these photos. (She can't pronounce some "s" blends so "sm" comes out sounding like "f" -- "file = smile" in Harperese.)

"File Bunny!"


"File Seep and Pig!"


"File Cow and Goat!"


You have to admit, the cereal pieces do look a little like tiny bales of hay.

The Nap Wars

Have I mentioned before how inconsistent Harper's naps have become? Despite our attempts at consistency and rountine, putting her to bed at all has been a fairly significant challenge since Harper turned two. I place the blame for this squarely on the shoulders of our decision that Harper should give up her pacis. On days when I'm really frustrated with the lack of nap I often find myself wishing for a paci. Paci in the mouth, and Harper would collaspe onto her matress, often without another peep. Although those days also involved getting out of bed in the middle of the night and fishing pacis out from under the crib, so that wasn't all roses either.

Here is my problem, Harper is not even two and a half, she cannot possible be ready to go all day everyday with no nap, can she? The baffling part is that, when she does allow herself to fall asleep, she naps for two to three hours in the afternoon and still sleeps fine at night. If she was only taking afternoon naps of thirty to forty-five mintues I could see how this might lead to a phasing out of the nap, but hours? Not so much. Not to mention that her post-lunch behavior practically begs for a nap: cranky, yawning, rubbing of eyes. . . Harper is a fairly strong-willed child and I firmly believe the days she doesn't take a nap have everything to do with the fact that she just won't let herself fall asleep.

Let's take Tuesday for example. We went to ABC class and then played for another hour at a rec center open gym. Harper spent a good chunk of time pulling two other toddlers around in a wagon. She could barely keep her eyes open on the way home. So we ate a quick little lunch, read stories, and into bed she went. Forty-five minutes later I heard disturbing sounds coming from her room and went in to investigate. I found her pillow, stuffed animal, and blankets on the floor, which was not a surprise. Most of those items go overboard when Harper decides not to sleep. I was, however, surprised by the folded up pants and diaper sitting on her book case. And even more surprised when Harper said, proudly, "I peed!" And peed she had, all over her mattress. I don't even know what to say about that.

Aaaahhhh!

Lots of happy sighing around here today. . .

It was my morning to drop Harper off and have three glorious hours to myself. First, I sat alone in a coffee shop and wrote for an hour -- the equivalent of a mental bubble bath and massage. Absolute bliss as far as I was concerned. Then I ran to the store and picked up a few items without stopping to look at the fish or birds or hamsters. Finally I came home, unloaded groceries, and went to the bathroom all by myself. And I didn't even have to call out, "Harper, what are you doing?!" I also listened to a little NPR and read some of my book club book.

To top it all off, Andrea said Harper was well-behaved, which means I'll get to do this again next month! (I do have to say, the three hours goes much faster when you're the one without the two-year-olds.)

Then tonight I had my last graduate class for this quarter. I handed in my final and stayed just long enough to collect my grade and leave. No class for two weeks! And between now and the first class of next quarter I'll be in Mexico for five days.

And I'm even feeling better.

Now I'm off to have very sweet, stress-free dreams.

Close Enough

(Please allow me to whine for a moment. . . Harper is just about over her cold, but she coughed in my face and wiped her nose on me for nearly a week so now I have it too. My allergies have kicked up in the last two days so I am miraculously afflicted with congestion and a runny nose as well as sinus pressure and one eye, the right, which seems to be tearing/weeping uncontrollably. Lovely right? Do you remember Patrick Dempsey from the opening scenes of Outbreak? That's pretty much me right now. To top it off Matt left for Bloomington, Indiana, for the weekend. So it's just Harper and I until sometime on Sunday. It's my blog and I'll cry if I want to. But the pity party is over now, thanks.)

Despite our sniffles, I had to run some errands with Harper today. One of which took us to the post office. I generally try to avoid heading there with Harper but we didn't have much choice. Today we were lucky and there were relatively few people in line ahead of us. I was trying to point out various things around the post office and keep Harper talking and entertain her. I noticed that the tiles on the floor were unusually shaped (they were hexagons) so I asked Harper if she knew what shape they were. By now, most of the people both working there and in line were looking at me like I was crazy, but Harper thought for a moment and said, "ocagon?" I told her they looked a lot like octagons, but were actually hexagons. To which she said, "otay!" Meanwhile the people around us were gaping. It was pretty funny. Then she also pointed out the circles at the bottom of the stands which held the line divider. When we were paying for our postage the clerk held up a package and asked what shape it was, Harper identified it as a "swear!" She was right. She also knows what a trapezoid is, which is fun just to hear her say it. It comes out "tap-i-zoid." I may have mentioned that one before, because it totally cracks me up. Sadly, there were no trapezoids in the post office.

She likes shapes. Recently she was riding in the car and I heard her shout, "Yook Mommy! I made a ti-an-gol!" She figured out how to form a triangle with her thumbs and index fingers and was exceedingly proud of herself.

Now I don't think Harper is some kind of math genius, or any genius at all. I'm sure she's bright, but she is also good at memorizing things. She pays attention. She has a peg puzzle made of shapes and we've watched the "Shapes and Colors" Blue's Clues DVD more times than I can count. So the kid knows her shapes.

I would like to point out that I'm not really a flashcard kind of mom and I'm not pushing to teach Harper much of anything. We talk to her and read her books, but I'm not so much interested in sitting down and working our way through flash cards of the presidents. I have no problem with people being more deliberate in their attempts to teach their children. That's just not really my style. And it wouldn't jive very well with Harper's personality. She pretty much bulldozes any attempt at structured activity; in return I have a child who has her own ideas about how and what she'd like to play and often doesn't want much interference from me. She likes me to be in the room, and watch her, but she doesn't necessarily want my input. We do actually have some flashcards, but Harper mostly likes to take them out of my hands and throw them on the floor, so you can see how that's not a great learning set up anyway. I believe that if kids are in a nurturing environment they will learn what they are supposed to learn when they are ready to learn it. But children are all different, and we each know our own better than anyone else. So if your child likes/learns from flashcards, go for it. If not, don't sweat it.

Besides, I'm pretty sure Mensa won't be accepting any members who were ever photographed like this:

Dinner and a Story

Those of you who don't know me personally may need a little background here. I live in Ohio, but I grew up in Wisconsin, where my parents and sister still live. My younger brother is currently a junior at the University of Dayton (my alma mater) and lives about fifteen minutes from us. He's a very involved and busy college student so we don't see him as often as you might imagine. Still, it is really nice to have him so nearby and get to see him at all!

Last night he came over for a home-cooked meal and some bonding with his niece. The meal did not come without a price, as he ended up dragging laundry up from the basement, wiping muddy dog paws, feeding the muddy dog, and entertaining the child so I could fold laundry and clean up the mess from dinner. He was very gracious about the fact that I kept assigning him tasks by saying things like, "Harper, why don't you see if Uncle Jamie wants to go get the clothes out of the dryer!"

He even had Harper clean up the mess in her "kitchen" by getting her on board with the idea that they could surprise me by cleaning up. I am pretty sure I used this tactic to get Jamie to clean up his toys on many occasions when he was younger. (Jamie, by the way, is nearly nine years younger than I am so I spent many joyful hours serving as his babysitter.)

As I was sitting on the couch, folding a basket of laundry, I was treated to the image of watching my little brother read a book to his niece, who was clearly thrilled to have his attention.





Harper calls him "Unca Jabee," pronouncing his name as though she has a cold. I'm sure she'll grow out of it someday and it's a good thing we'll have this blog to remind us all that there was a time she couldn't say "Jamie;" a time when happiness was sitting on the ottoman, wearing one-piece pajamas, being read to by her kind and patient uncle, and feeling loved.

In Like a Lion

We're back!

Did you miss us?

As soon as I officially declared my hiatus, Harper seemed to be enticing me to blog by being downright hilarious. Not once in the last week would I have thought, "What am I going to write about?" Which figures.

For a two-year-old Harper self-entertains fairly well. And she never stops talking, which is good for me. I can occasionally go to work on the computer and, as long as I hear her talking (to her doll, animals, our dog, etc.), I know she's okay. If it gets quiet, or I hear the refrigerator open, I know I need to go see what's happening. We live in a ranch, so there's only so far she can go.

Last Thursday, as I was working away on my project, I hear, "Mommy, yook at me! I a baby!" And I glance into the living room to see this:


That would be the doll stroller she is sitting in. And yes, she also took her clothes off. It's thirty degrees outside, only sixty-eight or so in the house, and Harper wants to run around all day in her diaper. I wish I had a digital video camera, because not only was Harper sitting in her stroller, she was cruising around in it, Flintstone-style. I did make her get out though, I'm pretty sure it's not meant to convey actual toddlers.

Later that same day she walked into the bathroom, where I was occupied, and said, "Hey toots!"

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When he was home over the weekend, Matt was in charge of Harper so I could get things finished up. He decided he should teach her to play poker:




I pulled up solitaire on my computer the other day and Harper asked where the chips were. She calls it, "pokers." I told her I didn't know how to play, it's a game to play with Daddy. That's seemed to suit her just fine. Who knows? Maybe she'll fund our retirement on the Poker World Tour someday.

*****

Apparently Harper internalizes my end-of-the-quarter stress and it weakens her immune system because, for the third time, as soon as I start getting into serious work mode, she gets sick. She has had a terrible cold for about five days now; coughing, sneezing, low fever, not wanting to eat, and waking up every three seconds all night long. Saturday night we had such a hard time getting her to stay asleep that Matt took her into the living room and laid on the couch with her. She wandered into the family room (where I was on the computer) around 1:30 a.m. and pouted, "Daddy didn't make woom for me." Matt had rolled over and sort of edged her off the couch. She was a pathetic mess.

We went to the doctor yesterday and her ears are clear, lungs are clear, and she doesn't have strep. All good news, except that there's not a darn thing to do but ride it out. And this morning I woke up with all her lovely symptoms. Sigh. Too bad moms can't call in for sick days.

Harper was totally cool with getting a "ceck-up" at the doctor, until they did the swab for the strep test. I guess there's no better way to do it with a toddler, but the doctor sort of just jabbed the swabs down her throat, much to Harper's horror, and a little to mine. Fortunately she seems to have forgotten it already. No hard feelings I guess.

The best part about going to the doctor is the sticker at the end. When I wasn't looking, Harper relocated her sticker. I finally noticed it wasn't on her shirt anymore and asked where she put it. Her response? "It is on the window for yater." Behold:



Fortunately it came off without too much effort.

*****

So there's our little (or long) update. The comments have been very quiet, what have you been up to in the last week?

Baking Buddies

I really do need to do cooking projects with Harper more often because she likes it so much. Baking seems to be the easiest thing to do with her, especially when it involves brownies from a box rather than homemade pretzels. Also, box brownies take about ten minutes to make, and that's with a toddler "helping."

We talked about measuring and pouring, as well as designating, "Harper jobs," and, "Mommy jobs." For example, pouring oil in the bowl is a Harper job; cracking the eggs is a Mommy job. As long as there were Harper jobs she didn't fuss over the Mommy ones.

Stirring was probably her favorite part, although she kept saying, "Yuck. Dese bowneees are yucky!"


You have to admit, brownie batter does look a little like dirt.

Once she got to taste the batter, Harper was totally on board. Don't worry, we didn't consume massive amounts of batter, just a taste. While we were tasting I said to Harper, "This is called, 'Licking the bowl.'" Which I should have know she would take literally.


Today Harper actually got to eat one of the brownies; they weren't cool enough last night. She doesn't get a lot of chocolate (most of it isn't safe for someone with peanut allergy), and she loved it. Although she still thought the crumbs looked like dirt and didn't care for them on her hands. "Dis bownee made my hans all yucky." It did not bother her enough to stop eating.

And now I say goodbye, I am going on hiatus for a few days. I have a ginormous project due Sunday night and darn it if it just keeps not getting finished. So no more blogging for me until I submit it. I might also, gasp, take a break from reading blogs for the next couple of days. So if I typically read and comment on yours, don't be offended. I'll be back next week. Have a good weekend!

Play Day

My friend Andrea approached me with the idea of having a babysitting swap. One Monday a month she'll take the girls for an entire morning and the other day, I will. We decided 9-12 is a good time frame, mostly because it allows the "free" mother a whopping amount of time to clean her house or eat chocolate, her choice, without child in tow. We began this week and I went first. Andrea dropped Dana off at 9 a.m. Monday morning and off she went. The girls were so excited to play together and Dana even relaxed about the dog, so we didn't have to keep him in the basement for three hours.

The day did not, however, pass without incident.

Two-year-olds, as it turns out, are not so great at taking turns. Duh.

I mean, mostly they were fine, especially once I hid Harper's baby doll and stroller, being that there's only one of each. Oh. My. Word. I literally had to pry both of their hands off the stroller and left them both crying on the floor while I locked it in the spare bedroom. We also had incidents over Harper's bear shaped pretend cookie mold, the ride-on corn popper, and a pair of infant sunglasses. But the girls mostly played well together.




A good thing about two-year-olds is that they seem to recover quickly from disappointment. While there were a few fits here and there, I think the morning can be called a success. Despite the knock-down-drag-out over the doll and stroller, both girls said they had fun and want to play together again.

Another benefit to this play day was that, as much as she drives me crazy, it helped me recognize that Harper has learned and follows a lot of our ground rules. I think I had been taking that for granted a bit. It's not that Dana wasn't well-behaved. For example, there is a stereo receiver/VCR/DVD thing on an open shelf below our television. Harper hardly ever touches that anymore, not that we didn't have to teach her to leave it alone. But at Dana's their equipment is behind childproof cabinet doors so she hasn't had to learn to leave it alone. I found myself saying a lot of, "At Harper's house we. . ." and she figured it out.

Of course the very best part will be a week from Monday, when I get to drop Harper off at Dana's house for three glorious hours!!!

Tag! I'm It!

This is very exciting. I have received my first ever meme tag. And it came from Mommy Daisy.

I think a significant number of people who read this blog are not necessarily bloggers and therefore may not know what a meme is, so allow me to try to enlighten. There are lots of definitions and if you look up "meme" in Wikipedia, it has a complicated history that I knew nothing about. A "memetag" however, is what we're talking about. (Read here and here if you care about these things!) A meme is when one blogger tags another and the tagged blogger answers a list of questions or lists their favorite books, or some variation of that sort of activity. So Mommy Daisy tagged me, and if you read to the end of this post, then you can see who I tag.

1. What is your main cell phone ring tone?

My phone plays the "Chinese Dance" from the Nutcraker. I always know when it's my phone that's ringing. I would also like to note that our home phones play "Old MacDonald Had a Farm."

2. What is your default avatar?

I think I have an avatar on Yahoo, and it is just a girl/woman with brown hair and eyes. I'm not sure anyone actually sees it. It is not very accurate; they were short on the avatars that looked like sweat pants wearing non-professional housewives.

3. What station is your car radio permanently tuned to?

My car radio is often playing Raffi's Singable Songs for the Very Young. But when Harper isn't demanding the "Waffi singing," I listen to one of our two local NPR stations. (If you are a dork like me you are totally jealous that I have two NPR stations to listen to.)

4. What is your computer desktop image?

It is one of Harper playing in the snow. Actually, the last one from this post.

5. Is there something you wear every single day?

Socks, slippers, flip-flops, or tennis shoes. I greatly dislike having bare feet, even in the house.

6. I wish I had a tracking device on:

There is no one object I consistently struggle to find. But there are always those items I know I have and that I put in a very specific space for safekeeping and then I cannot find when I need them. So I really need a tracking device for anything I put away thinking, "I'll put it here so it doesn't get lost and I can find it when I do need it."

7. What page does your Internet browser open with?

My Yahoo page.

8. This item never leaves my car/purse:

Blistex Lip Medex or DCT, especially in the winter. I also always have one of those little tissue packages.


9. What TV show do you never miss?

There are several I enjoy weekly, but LOST is probably the one I'm most upset to miss because it is hard to follow. I am addicted because I just can't figure out what the heck is up with that show!

10. What phrase do you hear yourself repeating too often?

"Harper? What are you doing?"

Now I tag Erin at MO Mommy. You're it!

How To Appear Smart

A little tip from Harper:

Don't know what something is, but embarrassed by your lacking vocabulary? Here is a plan that will ensure you remain clever and cute in the eyes of your parents.

1) Point to object(s) in question.

2) Look lovingly at the nearest adult and ask, "Wha is dat?"

3) Wait for the answer with a thoughtful look on your face.

4) When the adult answers, enthusiastically say, "Yes, dat's right!"

Nodding your head helps sell that last part; a little pat on the adult's arm doesn't hurt either.

It's a win-win. You now have a word to put with the previously unknown object and any adults around you will beam at your brilliance.

You're welcome.

There's An Announcement Here Somewhere

No I'm not pregnant. If you are my age, married, and use the word "announcement" it's one of the first things people think. Not happening yet. Moving on. . .

I read a lot of blogs. Several of them have new posts once or twice every single day. I did that for this past November and it about drove me insane. I don't know how many of you (besides Erin!) check here daily, but I will try to be more consistent with my posting. If you are still reading, you deserve that!

If I haven't posted much it either means:

a) Things have been going pretty well, leaving me nothing to rant or whine about.

or

b) I have been up until ungodly hours trying to finish my school work and I just can't bring myself to spend one more ever-loving second at this computer.

This week has been a little of both, but mostly b. This has been my most challenging quarter of graduate school yet. The good news is the worst will be over in only ten more days. The better news is that I'll be 1/2 way through my program after this quarter, and the BEST news is that Matt and I are going to Mexico!!!

Yes, Mexico.

(That was the announcement.)

Thanks to the fact that Matt works hard and is good at his job, and the fact that we have wonderful parents willing to play the toddler game for a few days, Matt and I will be spending a few days in Riviera Maya toward the end of March. This is similar to the trip we took to Florida last year. The trip just happens to be timed perfectly to coincide with the week between quarters where I am going to school. Talk about a reward. We are staying at some five-star, all inclusive, adult only resort. We get to spend a day visiting some ancient ruins. We are going to sleep. We are going to eat. We are going to get to see each other more than in passing!

Of course I'll miss Harper, but last year I amazed myself with my ability to say goodbye and truly enjoy our getaway. I would get teary when we called home or if something reminded me of Harper, but mostly I was able to let go and have fun. We'll only be gone one extra day this time. The other difference is that we know about her peanut allergy now, but both of our parents are educated about it and know how to keep her safe just as well as we do. She'll be in heaven with all the attention. Last year I think she was kind of upset when we showed up again. The Mugga fun train came to a screeching halt. This year she'll spend time with Nana and Dziatku and Mugga and Grandpa. She'll probably try to lock us out. At least we can count on Rebound to be excited by our return as he thinks, "The people who come home with my food are back, whew!"

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In Harper news, I just want to mention that she drives me crazy sometimes, but mostly Harper is an amazing kid and totally cracks me up.

This morning she was sitting on our bed and I was chasing the dog around. Rebound kept running over the top of our bed, which Harper found hilarious. She was laughing one of those wonderful belly laughs that seem to disappear with childhood. She kept saying, "Do it ageen Mommy!"

After a while I was getting pooped and I flopped down on the bed. When Harper protested I told her I needed to take a break because I couldn't breathe. She replied, "Yes you tan Mommy. It goes like this. . . " Then she leaned over with her mouth open and made noise which sounded like a Darth Vader impression. So literal, the two year old. I love it.

Two Posts in One Day; Don't Let Your Head Explode

Here is a little summary of this "winter" in Ohio.

Phase One: Where is our snow? Where is our cold? Why is it 60 degrees this late in October? No, I will not mow the lawn anymore.

Phase Two: Finally, it's a little cold, we can stop putting flea stuff on the dog.

Phase Three: OHMYGOSH! It. Is. So. Cold. I don't like this. Where is spring? Or at least let us have some snow!

Phase Four: Why is it still snowing? Never mind. No more snow. Kids need to go to school and I would like to pull the car out of the driveway.

Stay tuned for Phase Five, The Great Thaw, which is likely to contain flooding and all of Ohio sinking into a giant mud puddle. (FYI: I won't be a fan of Phase Five either. Apparently I don't think much of this "weather" stuff.)

So we finally had snow on the ground and a day warm enough to take Harper out to play in it. Sadly, it was not packing snow and, though we tried, there is still no snowman with a carrot nose gracing our front yard. Harper was only mildly upset by the lack of snowman.




Harper spent a lot of time just sort of flopping around in the snow. Then she would struggle to her feet and throw some in the air yelling, "It's snooooowing!"

After while, to take a break from the flopping and the throwing, she helped us shovel. It appears that, when you are two, shoveling and playing are not mutually exclusive concepts.





Tomorrow it is supposed to rain (see Phase Five, above) and we will enter the part of the year in which the dog will not be clean again for months. This is otherwise known as spring. If you were not fortunate enough to be here a few weeks ago, after my mom had scrubbed the kitchen floor, you'd best not visit soon. The floor is scheduled to be clean again in June.

Day with Daddy

It is no secret that Harper loves spending time with her dad. Between Matt's work and basketball, Harper spends most of her time with me, the lucky girl. Matt didn't have to work today and he was with Harper all day so I could get some school work finished. Today's daddy-daughter-bonding highlights included a tea party, playing an Elmo game that Matt found on the computer, and playing in the snow.

The first few pictures aren't from today, but they do show how much Harper loves her dad.







I have to say, if she's going to idolize someone, she's made a pretty good choice.

Snowbound

What do you do to entertain a toddler when it just keeps snowing and snowing and snowing and it's too cold to go outside?

Well these things have a way of working themselves out.

Yesterday Rebound went out and ran all over the snowy yard until he was covered. Then he came inside and started getting little bits of snow and water all over the place. Harper knew that little tiny puddles of water did not belong all over the place, so she decided it would be her job to dry Rebound.


She ran to the bathroom to get the hand towel and started chasing Rebound, saying, "Come ere Reba! Yet me dwy you off!"




Dogs are unlikely to hold still for two-year-olds wielding towels. Which worked in my favor. I'd say the game lasted about half and hour before Rebound came to me with a desperate plea to stop the madness.


Tomorrow it is supposed to be slightly warmer here and we may finally get outside to build that snowman.

Happy Valentine's Day

Happy candy and flowers day to everyone. Nana and Dziatku generously joined us for dinner and then stayed to babysit so Matt and I could see a movie. We saw The Pursuit of Happyness and it was wonderful. A word of caution though, the movie is about 99% pursuit and only 1% happyness. I cried a lot. If that movie didn't have a happy ending, they would probably have needed ushers handing out Prozac as people left the theater.

Going to see a movie with Matt was a nice treat, which couldn't have come at a better time. Today was not a good day, toddler-wise. Example: I went downstairs to switch a load of laundry while Harper was finishing her applesauce. I heard her laughing as I was pouring laundry detergent and came upstairs to find she had literally flung applesauce all over the kitchen with her spoon. Harper is ornery in what I suspect are many normal toddler ways, but she has an abnormal fondness for throwing her food. It drives me absolutely crazy. I took the remaining applesauce away (we're trying to teach her that food on the floor or walls means she's finished eating) and she screamed. Then she screamed because I wouldn't give her marshmallows.

Then the dog refused to come in and stood barking at our unkind neighbor who was shoveling his driveway. Our history with the neighbors and our dog is a long and unpleasant one, resulting in the fact that we tell the dog not to bark when he goes outside. I couldn't even chase him and bring him in, the snow was too deep. I will admit that I cried in frustration (there was a lot of crying today, come to think of it) and then Harper gave me two of her Fisher Price babies to make me feel all better.

She actually said, "Was a matter Mommy? I tan make you feel better, otay? I give you dese babies, otay? Der you go. Is dat much better?"

Then she went back to screaming about marshmallows. That's two for you.

The snow has kept us housebound for two entire days with not even a trip to Kroger to break up the insanity. I desperately wanted to go to playgroup today, but would not have been able to get my little car out of the driveway. So we played at home.

Have I ever mentioned that some of Harper's favorite toys are actually Rebound's toys? Yesterday she fell in love with this tennis doughnut. And she decided that looking at me through it was hilarious.


"Yook at me Mommy! I tan see you!"


I laughed because she though it was so funny. Then she asked me to take her picture.

Today she pulled out the routine again, and again requested a picture.


Tomorrow we will get out of the house!

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(Thanks to the supportive things everyone wrote about the peanut allergy post. And thanks to all the non-commenters who were supportive over the phone. A combination of one or two more hives and some very sloppy diapers makes me think the virus theory was the correct one and she wasn't having a reaction at all. You just never know.)